had to shut a bitch down today
And that’s how public shootings and school shootings and shit like that happen. I’m not saying that this dude is not creepy as fuck, but this is not the way to handle this! He didn’t say anything mean (on purpose), and when you shut him down like that how the fuck do you think he’s going to react? He must know he’s somewhat creepy, but when a complete stranger that he adores tells him so vividly how creepy he is, that must wreck his world. I’m just saying I wouldn’t be surprised if he bought a gun (legally, but that’s a different issue) and went in to the store he knows you fucking work at. Just be nice to people fuck.
Alright, you know what? I don’t want to reblog this post. I want this post to die. And I have never once reblogged to reply to someone else’s comment on this post. But this one? This one I’m fucking gonna, because how. dare. you.
Are you seriously one of those slimy, inhuman grease traps of a human being who blame VICTIMS OF SHOOTINGS FOR THE FUCKING SHOOTINGS
Don’t you EVER come at me and try to tell me that I need to be responsible, personally responsible, for the mental satisfaction of the kind of monsters who would do something like that. Don’t you ever tell me I have to let myself be uncomfortable around people who LITERALLY STALK ME and put on a big smile and let them down gently because in your twisted little brain it is MY JOB TO KEEP THEM FROM KILLING PEOPLE
H O W F U C K I N G D A R E Y O U
YOU are the problem. YOU are the kind of person who justifies that kind of senseless violence by saying WELL IF SHE HAD JUST GIVEN HIM A CHANCE
IF SHE HAD JUST FUCKED HIM
IF HE HAD JUST ‘GOTTEN SOME’
HE WOULDN’T HAVE RAPED HER/SHOT THEM/DONE IT
Are you fucking proud of that? Are you proud that that’s the tiny drop you choose to drop into society’s bucket?
I don’t care if it ‘wrecked his world’ when he was called out on his socially unacceptable, disgusting behavior. I don’t caaaaaaaare
His actions are HIS actions. His actions are HIS fault
the next time I see a tragedy like the elliot rodger shooting on the news, I’m gonna think of all the vile comments from people online that say it all could have been avoided if the people he threatened and menaced would just relinquish their bodies and their comfort and their personal space for him, and I’m gonna s e e y o u r f a c e and I hope you fucking know it.
Don’t you ever talk to me. I am sick to my stomach over your fucking bullshit.
All right, usually, I don’t get involved in this type of thing, but I feel the need to say something now. I know that it’s a slim chance at best that anyone will read through this, and it’s an even slimmer chance that it’ll change any minds, but here I go.
N E I T H E R O F Y O U A R E C O M P L E T E L Y R I G H T.
I must say that I agree ever so slightly more with you, everybody-calmdown, because I also found her response to be largely inappropriate. I however, do not AT ALL agree with your implication that anyone besides the perpetrator is responsible for doing something so heinous like murdering, raping, or assaulting others. At the end of the day, motive or not, everyone is responsible for their own actions, and it should go without fucking saying that murder is never the appropriate response and should not be the expected outcome of something like this. “Kitty” is right in that. However, that’s where my agreement ends with “Kitty” and the unwarranted use of her “claws”.
The way in which you “shut a bitch down”, Kitty, was unnecessarily abrasive. Was he being creepy? ABSOLUTELY. Should he be told how inappropriate and unwanted his behavior was? YES. Did you need to call him names and tear into him like that? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
You were so quick to become offended and so quick to jump on your high horse that you ignored any impulse to follow reason or compassion. You complained that he doesn’t know you or anything about you and that he has forgotten that you’re a real, live human being. It seems that in worrying about your own image, you have forgotten that he too is a real, live human being, complete with a whole lifetime of experiences behind him, all of which YOU have no idea about either. Did it even cross your mind that he may just have underdeveloped social skills due to a background of being unaccepted and/or having psychological damage done to him as a child or adolescent? For all you know, he actually is a nice guy, he just has no idea what’s acceptable behavior and what isn’t. Instead of taking a measured and intelligent approach to this guy, you assumed the absolute worst of him and didn’t give him a chance to back out gracefully (and no, I don’t count not responding to his messages because to someone with mild delusions/infatuation as this guy is obviously suffering from, those signals would be unclear), all without knowing a damn thing about him, the very sin you condemned him of. You could have EASILY said something like “Look, I appreciate that you think highly of me, but we don’t know each other, and I find this conversation inappropriate. Honestly, it’s making me very uncomfortable. That is why I am politely asking you to stop contacting me because I have no interest in pursuing any sort of correspondence with you. Thank you.” See? Polite, direct, and to the point, all without the ball breaking. If he had come back at you with something aggressive and abrasive after that, break all the balls you want, but my point is that he really didn’t do much other than react inappropriately when he saw a girl he found exceptional. That was his big mistake, and in more ways than one, it seems.
And let me ask you this: Did it occur to you that your cutting words will have a negative rippling effect through the rest of his already seemingly lonely life? I think it actually did occur to you, and that’s what alarms me. It was so important for you to get your immediate satisfaction at disposing of an annoyance that you decided to ignore the fact that there is someone with feelings on the receiving end of your biting remarks. I shutter to think how much satisfaction it must have given you to read your corrosive words over and over while proof reading it, imagining his response to every last phrase. You wouldn’t have chosen such acidic words if you hadn’t aimed to hurt him. He was being creepy and inappropriate, yes, but he didn’t say anything that warranted the name calling and condescension that your final response was dripping with.
Finally, what REALLY bothers me is that YOU POSTED ALL OF THIS ON FUCKING TUMBLR. It wasn’t enough for you to roundhouse kick this guy in the balls directly. You had to add public humiliation to it, and all so that you could receive pats on the back from strangers for being so hateful to someone you don’t know. And other truly alarming factor is that this disgusting display of ignorant slandering has gotten so much positive recognition here. SO MANY PEOPLE on this site pontificate about stopping the spread of hatred. Well, THIS sort of thing needs to stop too. This is nothing more than a very short escalation to internet bullying.
If he had given you a clear sign of being a real threat who would actually do anything more than creepily obsess over you from afar, I would understand. But, in my opinion, he didn’t. I think he’s just a misguided guy who got reamed by someone who was far too overly eager to tear someone a new one. Will I ever know for sure? I highly doubt it. But from what I’ve seen, you went about this with a truly mean spirit and made it all public to gather more satisfaction for your cruelty. That makes me sad (and sick).